Bright Side: Gay or The One That Got Away

"Oh, sweetie -- you actually thought he wasn't gay?" Legitimate question if you are talking about a hair dresser or fashion designer....sometimes it's hard to know for sure. Not so much if you're asking me about an ex-boyfriend. Even more unfortunate if it's happened to you more than once. (I know....right?)

I think it's safe to say that no one likes a break-up. There's nothing easy about parting ways with someone. But when you part ways and then find out that maybe you didn't have....how do we say this?....the right equipment....well, it makes it a little easier to handle. All of a sudden, the rejection you felt melts away -- you can smile, relax, and think "it wasn't me, it was you" and really mean it.

But what about those other breakups? The ones that leave you crying on the couch until your friends rescue you, whisking you away for the weekend -- thanks girls! The ones that have you swearing off men and doubting that true love really exists. The ones that even self-help books and Oprah can't fix.

They say time heals all wounds but when you're in the thick of it, up to your elbows in Kleenex and heartache, time can't move fast enough. Bright side? Yeah, right. And then time does pass and you feel like wearing something other than his old college sweatshirt and mismatched pajama bottoms. Time passes and you're ready to get out there again, this time stronger, wiser, and determined to make your ex see the error of his ways. How could he not want you -- sexy, successful, and sassy -- and now savvy as well due to the pain you have just endured?

Eventually, enough time passes that you and your exes have not only found true love, you've married it. The pain of the breakups are a distant memory, but you always wonder -- what if? All you care about is that he thinks you are "the one that got away". Shallow, maybe...but admit it, you want the title. And why not?
Who would be stupid enough to pass you up?

You may never have the title, you may never see or speak to those exes again -- even though you might Google them or (gasp!) find them on Facebook. The words "You were the one that got away" may never be spoken. No one's going to send you a golden statue or certificate to prove it. But you know it. Just own it.

Glass Half Full folks, you are the one who got away -- own it and stay fabulous! And if you have a gay ex or three -- fabulous is your middle name, sister!